I know I have not been here in forever. It is mostly because the things in my head are best not shared. If you know what I mean *wink wink*
Anyways, I want to tell you about this song. It is an amazing worship song that I just got introduced to. I was listening to it some minutes ago, and it went straight into my heart, lifting my spirits. And I thought to myself, this is definitely worth sharing. You can listen and download here and maybe sometime soon, I will tell you about the lady that sang this song.
I came upon this post on yahoo.com about this model who ‘shares a multitasking photo’.
Does this look like a multitasking mom to you?
Real multitasking as a mom:
I had a screaming baby, who wouldn’t let me put her down. I tried rocking her while attempting to prep a meal for her at the same time. I needed to warm some water to prep her meal but she wouldn’t let me put her down. So I had to strike a match to light the gas stove while still trying to soothe her. With one limb rocking the baby screaming diligently in my ears, the other limb was busy putting water in a pan and carefully putting it on the cooker. Those few moments were one of the scariest of my life, I was literally playing with fire. I mean that literally.While waiting for water to get warm, I got out her bottle, and with the one limb, removed the bottle cover, opened the can of milk, scooped some into the bottle, got the warm water from the stove, carefully poured into the bottle, returned the pan to the cooker, put the bottle cover back on, proceeded to shake up the mixture to the right consistency, ensured the temperature was just right for the relentlessly screaming child and then gave her the bottle. I didn’t sit down to give her the bottle because I had to keep rocking her gently as she fed. Had to ignore the burning pain in the limb that had been holding the baby until she was fed and calm. Once all was well in this baby’s world, she decided to be merciful to me and allowed me to put her down so I can attend to me.
So when I see a picture of a mom sitting down to have her hair done while she breastfeeds her child and I am told that’s what multitasking is, I feel the need to come out of my hiatus and stomp around a bit. This is the attitude some celebrities, no, privileged ones, put on to belittle genuinely struggling moms. And I honestly think they need to stop it right now!
In recent times, everything has just been bleak, bleak, bleak. No joy.
And I thought it was just me.
A friend of mine (God-lover, married, has a job and a really good car) who was moving to her spanking new apartment, let slip the other day that she feels like her life has not started and that just depresses her.
Ooooookay!
In my head, I was like, for real? You are all put together, better than me. How can you feel the exact things I feel. Like she had no right to feel that way.
Fastforward to another conversation earlier today.
She has also been feeling out of sorts, really unmotivated and worried about the future. FYI, she is getting a condo with her fiance and she’s a bride-to-be. But she is worried about getting a good job after our Master’s program. She thought I wouldn’t have that problem, cos ‘I have options’. I don’t know where she got that idea from *scowling*.
She was gonna go on but I stopped her. I told her I am equally worried about my future, there are so many uncertainties, so many unknowns. And clarified to her that she is not alone, a lot of us are walking around scared of the future. And we are right to feel that way, after all, we are not witches-we really don’t know what the future holds. What with tomatoes going for 4/N500, bag of rice going for N18k and Trump clinching all the delegates he needs for nomination. #thehorror
So, I have decided. Enough is enough. No more slinking around wondering if I’m gona be okay. So what if I’m not okay? That is nothing new. Whatever comes around to make me not okay, I will kick its ass like I kicked some ass in 2007 and in 2009 and in 2013.
But for now, I am going to just go to bed and sleep. God has told me to freaking hold my peace and that’s my current mission. After all, He is fighting for me.
Usually when I read these things in politics, I either smirk in disagreement or agree and simply move on, keeping my comments to meself. But on this one, I simply couldn’t resist. And sorry to disappoint you, this post is not about a political view. Instead it is about the ‘women view’. Btw, I’ll tell you something nasty a ‘friend’ of mine said about a new born baby girl, but you gotta read to the end to find out. So, as we were saying, these two men simply shared their views on what they think of women in general. One man thinks of all women as the Delilah-kind, while the other man thinks of women as the Virtous Woman of the Bible.
Lemme explain.
When Adam saw Eve for the first time, he didn’t go ‘Damn girl, you sexy as hell!’. Instead, he said, ‘At last!, this one is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh’. Meaning, this is an original part of me, she is so much a part of me, if she hurts I hurt, if she’s happy I am happy, her progress translates to my progress and speaking good of her translates to speaking good of me. Eve was probably a sexy woman, but we will never know because that was not the focus of her importance. When I read about the virtuous woman (Superman-Spiderman-Captain America-Jarvis all rolled up into one, like seriously!), I noticed there was no mention of how her beauty or sexiness led to the great feats she acomplished. It was all brains-hard work-empathy-loyalty. A great man will always see all women in this light; encourage his daughters and sisters to be nothing but these and ensure to create opportunities for the women in his life to be all these. Plus more.You tell your daughters they are only good for their bodies, they will grow up believing it and go into university not seeing the need to study hard when they can use their bodies to get what they need. You tell a girl she is smart, she will put her energies into getting smarter. Plus, so long as we think girls are not worth much, our society will not open up opportunities for their growth. After all, what’s the point? Now, you see why girls, from the beginning of time, have always being behind on the priority of education.
An old friend of mine announced to me once that one of his friends just had a baby girl. He followed the announcement with ‘another prostitute has been added to this world’. It shames me now that I called someone who thinks so poorly of women in general my friend. Unfortunately, such poor thinking and stunted worldview is the more popular view. So ask youself, how do you think of women? And more importantly, as a woman, how do you think of yourself? Are you more important for the size of your boobs or the size of your brains? It is the part you think is more important that you work on, and that is the part that grows bigger.
So I leave you folks with this video curtesy ‘Youbetube’ (like my adorable 4-year old nephew calls it)
The fire started four days ago. And like we all like to believe of fires, it was going to die out soon. Unfortunately, this one has taken on a life force of its own, raging into homes and lives like a bull on rampage. It started on Sunday, crossed a river and breached a highway by Tuesday and by Wednesday, it had crossed another river. As of this morning, on the news, it has been classified a level 6 fire. From what I gathered, fires are categorized on a sclae of 0-6, so this is as bad and destructive as a wildfire can possibly get. The fires are burning so hot, water and retardant might slow it down but not much.
Heard yesterday on the news that 80% of the residents of Fort McMurray have lost their homes. People are fleeing to surrounding locales, driving through embers raining on their cars and watching their homes go up in flames in their rearview mirrors. These people have lost some of the most basic necessities of life – shelter, food, clothing. Not only that, decades of hard work have gone up in flames. I imagine that businesses, diners, laundromarts, banks, schools etc. are gone in the hardest hit locations. It is in situations like this that you realise losing your phone is not such a disaster after all.
On CTV news this morning, evacuees are being catered to in some locations and they have said they basically just need food and clothes. Donations to the Red Cross are being called for and the Government of Canada has promised to match the donations made to the Red Cross.
I know for us Nigerians, we might not be able to send food, paper towels or money to Alberta, but I know we can pray. So, I am encouraging everyone to send a prayer up for all those affected by this disaster. This is a level 6 fire, Alberta needs a miracle fast. This is not a nationality issue, it’s a humanity issue.
An Occasional Blog of Devotionals Inspired by A Course in Miracles, A Course of Love, The Way of Mastery, Choose Only Love, The Way of the Marys, and The Age of the Heart. . .with Celia Hales - https://www.amazon.com/author/celiahales
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